Wednesday, February 25, 2015
HaHa's
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Uconns True Colors Conference
For those interested, Uconn has a True Colors conference in support and education of gender/sexuality issues.
Check it out! Student discounts!
http://www.ourtruecolors.org/Programs/Conference/register.html
Check it out! Student discounts!
http://www.ourtruecolors.org/Programs/Conference/register.html
Bergman Video
Hay y'all.
I was surprised by by attitude towards the Bergman video. I ended up actually enjoying watching it (although those in my cohort know too well my weakness for all television of any kind). I went into it having a negative view of Bergman after watching her suggest loads of people take Viagra and seemingly misrepresent the drug, particularly when it was revealed her ties to the pharmaceutical industry.
For purely entertainment purposes, I loved the video. The different types of couples, their dynamics, the highlights on the super sweet moments and not so sweet moments made for some cute television.
Clinically, there were ups and downs in Bergman's approach for me. I am on the fence about immediately checking out biological reasons behind sexual dysfunctions. For the pro, I think it may help couples overcome the myth that most sexual dysfuntion has to do with hormones or biological agents (while I don't disagree that it can and does play a role!). It may also put this that idea aside for the more resistant individuals who aren't necessarily "buying the therapist process". Testing hormones may also help when hormones are eally the culprint for messing up things such as lubrication and what not.
The not so great part for me was that testing right off the bat could also make this may imply that this is the most common reason for dysfunction and that we need to get this out of the way as it is a "quick and easy fix". I'd fear that those who id have a hormone issue would then not reap the full benefits of the counseling process.
I particularly liked her description of the idea of being dominated related to abuse histories. I have known several folks interested in BDSM or domination related things, many of whom had abused histories. The connection for me (who tends to think deeply into every situation and analyze and reanalyze things) was unsettling and made me feel sad. Looking at it as a way to "retake control" by giving up control to a trusting partner on their own terms, however, put a more positive spin on something that I had a different view on. However provocative this idea may be for some, for me it shed a little new light on something I didn't fully understand.
There were several useful ideas for these couples that they all very much appeared to enjoy (surrender dates, feather ticklers, blindfolds in public, bath-time kisses) which were all very endearing to watch. Many of these, however, seem like "first order changes" in that they are done during a week long "vacation" of sorts. None include real life stressors such as jobs or kids or financial issues that couples may plague. I felt that there could have been much more work done on the deeper meanings behind these things, why they feel so good, and how to prevent relationship relapse once these couples get home.
I was surprised by by attitude towards the Bergman video. I ended up actually enjoying watching it (although those in my cohort know too well my weakness for all television of any kind). I went into it having a negative view of Bergman after watching her suggest loads of people take Viagra and seemingly misrepresent the drug, particularly when it was revealed her ties to the pharmaceutical industry.
For purely entertainment purposes, I loved the video. The different types of couples, their dynamics, the highlights on the super sweet moments and not so sweet moments made for some cute television.
Clinically, there were ups and downs in Bergman's approach for me. I am on the fence about immediately checking out biological reasons behind sexual dysfunctions. For the pro, I think it may help couples overcome the myth that most sexual dysfuntion has to do with hormones or biological agents (while I don't disagree that it can and does play a role!). It may also put this that idea aside for the more resistant individuals who aren't necessarily "buying the therapist process". Testing hormones may also help when hormones are eally the culprint for messing up things such as lubrication and what not.
The not so great part for me was that testing right off the bat could also make this may imply that this is the most common reason for dysfunction and that we need to get this out of the way as it is a "quick and easy fix". I'd fear that those who id have a hormone issue would then not reap the full benefits of the counseling process.
I particularly liked her description of the idea of being dominated related to abuse histories. I have known several folks interested in BDSM or domination related things, many of whom had abused histories. The connection for me (who tends to think deeply into every situation and analyze and reanalyze things) was unsettling and made me feel sad. Looking at it as a way to "retake control" by giving up control to a trusting partner on their own terms, however, put a more positive spin on something that I had a different view on. However provocative this idea may be for some, for me it shed a little new light on something I didn't fully understand.
There were several useful ideas for these couples that they all very much appeared to enjoy (surrender dates, feather ticklers, blindfolds in public, bath-time kisses) which were all very endearing to watch. Many of these, however, seem like "first order changes" in that they are done during a week long "vacation" of sorts. None include real life stressors such as jobs or kids or financial issues that couples may plague. I felt that there could have been much more work done on the deeper meanings behind these things, why they feel so good, and how to prevent relationship relapse once these couples get home.
Monday, February 9, 2015
Hi all!
I'm Mackenzie and a second year (ah!) CFT student. My focus has shifted several times over the course of my life, but currently I enjoy most working with teens and adults. I enjoy working with issues surrounding sex and sexuality although do not have as much experience clinically with either as I'd like to have. Other areas of interest relate to substance abuse. I primarily started this program thinking I'd like to work entirely with adults, however my internship has shown me just how much couples issues effect children and how talking about and informing children and young adults about relationships and even sexuality is so important. My work with clients at my internship has taken a unique turn for me and I have happened to get several clients who have concerns related to sexuality. This has been not only challenging but incredibly rewarding work.
I consider myself as being relatively private socially about my own personal relationship, however I'm a relatively private person in a lot of areas of my life. I hope this class pushes me to become more comfortable sharing and discussing my own experiences.
I'm Mackenzie and a second year (ah!) CFT student. My focus has shifted several times over the course of my life, but currently I enjoy most working with teens and adults. I enjoy working with issues surrounding sex and sexuality although do not have as much experience clinically with either as I'd like to have. Other areas of interest relate to substance abuse. I primarily started this program thinking I'd like to work entirely with adults, however my internship has shown me just how much couples issues effect children and how talking about and informing children and young adults about relationships and even sexuality is so important. My work with clients at my internship has taken a unique turn for me and I have happened to get several clients who have concerns related to sexuality. This has been not only challenging but incredibly rewarding work.
I consider myself as being relatively private socially about my own personal relationship, however I'm a relatively private person in a lot of areas of my life. I hope this class pushes me to become more comfortable sharing and discussing my own experiences.
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